10 Signs that Something Is SERIOUSLY WRONG In Your Romantic Relationship
You want and need a romantic relationship that makes you feel like home. It’s where you are safest and most comfortable. Happiness is right by your side because you have the right person with you. Even in hard times, you are relieved that you got someone to make things bearable for you.
The joyful times are incomparable. Moments when you don’t want to leave each other’s arms – nothing tops the bliss. They make you want to freeze time to stay in love and be in love with each other forever.
Truly, romantic relationships are lovely, but just like anyone and anything, none of them are perfect. Actually, they are complex. Two different people committing to becoming one? Just by hearing it, it doesn’t sound so easy at all. What more when the relationship reaches difficult uncertain points? Times when you feel like things and feelings have become quite different from what and how they were in the beginning. Most couples go through such, especially when several factors and people around are involved.
You don’t exactly know what’s happening, or maybe you’re in denial, but it’s important that you be enlightened for you to understand and to realize what to do. Here are 10 signs that something is SERIOUSLY WRONG in your romantic relationship.
1 – You are forced to lie.
To always be truthful to your other half is one of your duties as the other half. Honesty is indeed the best policy, and in every romantic relationship, it is really true.
However, there is something wrong in your relationship if even in the midst of your loyalty and faithfulness, you are sometimes forced to lie. This is not about lying to cheat or to deceive your partner or to fool them while you have eyes on another man or woman. What we’re saying here is that there are times you think you have no choice but to make lies or at least white lies because you don’t want to anger your partner.
For example, your girlfriend or boyfriend easily gets jealous and often suspects you whenever you are good friends with your long-time friends. There are times when you can’t completely tell her/him who you are with because she/he will get mad when she/he finds out that there are female/male friends in the circle. Even when you know that you are 101% loyal and doing nothing wrong, you can’t help but lie to avoid quarrels caused by groundless accusations by your avcılar escort partner.
2 – You don’t feel comfortable and safe.
You feel good when the romantic relationship is good, but when something’s wrong, you don’t feel comfortable and safe. You feel tense, pressured, bothered, uneasy and troubled. That’s true even when you are not physically together, but you feel kind of relieved when you’re just alone or with other people. You don’t get a sense of security. Rather, you feel like you’re on the racks.
3 – You spend little time with each other.
Although people have different responsibilities and varying levels of busyness, the bottom line is everyone is busy in one way or another. But that does not mean you should just disregard the need for you and your lover to be with each other to meet, catch up, talk and bond.
When you spend very little time with each other, there might be something wrong. Especially when you don’t make time for each other or when one does not make time for the other, that is a red flag.
Time spent with each other is precious. You learn a lot about yourself and your relationship. You grow and help each other grow. If you don’t have time for your relationship, don’t expect for it to last long.
4 – You disagree more often than you agree with each other.
Disagreements and quarrels are part of romantic relationships. Some are small fights while others are big disputes. They are inevitable in relationships because people have countless differences, but after all, problems make the bond and love stronger when they are solved together.
However, this does not mean you always need to bicker and argue. This does not mean you need feuds and conflicts for breakfast, lunch and dinner. If you disagree more often than you agree with each other, there’s something wrong. Your attitudes and personalities often clash and oppose one another, and you must do something to work them all out.
5 – You don’t feel genuinely happy anymore.
No other side of you is more beautiful than your happy self. Even when you don’t verbally express it, your happiness comes out from your eyes, from your smile, and even from your skin. You look good because you feel good!
In a romantic relationship, when you don’t feel genuinely happy anymore, there is surely something that needs mending or ending. These times, you fake the emotions and force yourself to believe you’re still happy to be in the relationship. It’s so easy to post a ‘happily in love’ couple post on social media, but behind the screen, you know you’re not so happy as you were before.
6 – You barely communicate.
If you still perceive that your relationship is going well while you barely communicate, you should get your eyes checked. Communication is key to building and maintaining a loving romantic relationship. It lets you know about each other and stay with each other through thick and thin. Without communication, how different is it from being single? It’s not so different actually. Being single is so much better than that.
7 – You are unnecessarily losing good friends.
No man is an island. Even when you have your better half, it’s good to have buddies you can always count on. Actually, having friends is a need, and the reasons are self-explanatory.
It’s sad but true that there are some people who lose their friends after getting into a romantic relationship. It’s not that their friends leave them for being “taken”, but it’s because they themselves create gaps to make way for their lover’s “demands”.
If you can relate to this, the reason could be because your lover doesn’t want it when you talk with friends or spend time with friends without them. Or your friends have been confronted or attacked by your girlfriend/boyfriend, telling them to limit their communication and interaction with you. The root causes include jealousy, possessiveness and insecurity. It’s awful.
8 – You lack personal space.
Fine, you two become one when you commit to having a romantic relationship, but it does not equate to literally becoming the same person. Of course, you still have your individual selves.
If you lack personal space while in that commitment, there’s something truly wrong. You can’t make decisions on your own. There’s absolutely nothing about you left hidden, even the littlest details, since your partner knows everything. They want to know every single thing you do, even when they’re not around. You never get to have your own privacy because your lover doesn’t let you.
9 – You feel distant.
You are physically together, and you see each other from time to time, but you feel distant. Sometimes, you’re doubting if you really know that person in front of you or maybe they have changed as times have changed, and you feel like you’re drifting apart.
10 – You are having trust issues.
The first point tells of you being forced to lie because of your lover’s trust issues. This time, you are the one having trust issues.
There could be something wrong in the relationship if you really feel like your partner is not being sincere and honest with you. It’s not because you’re being a jealous or suspicious partner but because you can feel that they are doing something unwanted behind your back. You feel bothered because there really is something to be bothered about, especially when you’ve seen proof with your own senses. Be smart, and be sure before doing anything about those trust issues of yours.
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WHAT’S WRONG?
When you feel or notice that something wrong is going on in your relationship or in you as individuals in each party, determine what it is. What’s wrong? Do not take it lightly. Do not ignore it.
Watch out because that might signify that your relationship is in trouble or close to falling apart. Be wise also because that wrong thing might be because you, both or one of you are not anymore doing your or his/her best to make the relationship grow. Pay attention because these signs might tell you that there’s a lot of important elements in the relationship, which you are overlooking or neglecting.
When you realize where the issues are, do your best to patch things up and work things out for the better. As humans, couples may have shortcomings towards each other, so acknowledge them, and make an effort to make up for them.
In another story, if the signs of wrong you perceive in your romantic relationship are caused by mistreatment, abuse, violence, threats and the like, it’s time to think twice about still staying in that relationship. Especially if you’re not yet married and without kids, there’s nothing much to consider; choose to break away from the toxic and dangerous relationship. Whatever your particular situation is, you can always seek legal help, lawyers, programs for victims of domestic violence, protection for your family and marriage counseling.
These signs are there to remind you or to warn you. Do not brush them aside because they can save your relationship or they can save you.
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:
Nicole Ann Pore is a writer, an events host and a voice over artist. She finds quality and well-researched writing as a worthwhile avenue to enlighten and delight others about things that matter. Giving all the glory to God, Nicole graduated Cum Laude from De La Salle University Manila, Philippines with a Bachelor’s Degree in Communication Arts.
